Frequently Asked Questions

No. Your private dealings are your own.

It unfortunately often happens that a partner cannot fulfil that lingering desire of submissiveness. For a partner it is often impossible to actually dominate, hurt or use you even if you explicitly ask for it.

Dominance cannot really be faked. I offer a discreet way to explore and experience your submissive side without consequences for your existing relationship.

I meet only with women, and with couples (both FF and MF couples).

The intake takes place during the initial contacts and starts with a confidential discussion of desires, boundaries, experiences, and practical details.

We will also explore the presence of any traumas that might be relevant to know about in the context of a BDSM session.

Through private contact, ensuring chemistry, alignment of expectations, and mutual respect.

This is a very limited service. I only meet with new submissives a few times each year. And I only have a limited number of meetings each year. The initial contact ensures a good fit.

Yes, and it depends on your request. Some activities are allowed from the age of 16. Most activities require a minimum age of 18.

If you want to meet in a country other that the Netherlands, there might be local age of consent laws to take into account as well.

If you are unsure which age is relevant to you, feel free to reach out.

That is no problem at all.

Exploration begins with curiosity, and the first sessions can be designed as gentle a introduction.

It all starts with acknowledging that you have submissive feelings and that you have a desire to explore that side of you.

Yes, definitely.

Any request that is unsafe for you or me, that is incompatible with my ethics, or outside my expertise or my personal limits will be refused.

During our preparations we establish the boundaries for our sessions. Respecting them is essential to creating trust.

We also discuss possible triggers you have that might be caused be emotional, sexual, or physical trauma.

You always have a safeword or safesign that ends or pauses play, without question.

This is the foundation of safe play and trust.

Yes. In case of elite clients, formal agreements can be arranged for additional assurance.

Compensation is handled through secure methods. Where needed more private methods are available.

Options are discussed privately.

When we make the arrangements, we make sure that venues are carefully selected to guarantee privacy.

If requested, we can often also accommodate selected venues that your own agency or concierge service suggest and make the bookings for.

Yes. Many clients use trusted representatives. Communication remains equally secure and confidential.

They can connect for details for agencies and concierge services.

Secure and encrypted communication channels are provided, sessions are discreet, and no identifying information is ever shared.

When needed, an NDA is signed in advance.

Yes.

At the end of each session there is a possibility of grounding, comfort, and reflection. The form varies per sessions and per sub.

When desired, yes.

Many clients find follow-up conversations and sessions valuable for further enjoying their submissive side.

That really depends on the initial preparations, your experience level, your desires and the areas of BDSM that your interests lie in.

First sessions (with the obvious exception of rape fantasies), start with a moment to re-iterate safety rules and confirm safety words and safety signs. Afterwards the session will flow into actual submissiveness. This could entail rules and dominance, restraints, or sensual play.

Yes. All sessions are unique. Sessions are always adapted to your experience, wishes and limits.

In case of follow-up sessions, we can build on top of previous sessions to further explore your limits and different aspects of BDSM.

Typically sessions last two to four hours, though longer or retreat-style engagements can be discussed.

Travel and accommodation expenses will be communicated with clarity in advance and are separate from the costs of the sessions.

Compensation is discussed privately after compatibility is established.

Compensation will reflect the exclusivity, preparation and experience brought.

No.

While my engagements are primarily reserved for affluent clients, I recognize that value can take many forms. In rare cases, chemistry or unique intangibles may open the door to an invitation.

Yes.

While most engagements are arranged through traditional compensation, in rare cases I also extend access to individuals early in life with limited financial resources, and to those who possess exceptional qualities, such as unique collaborations, a striking aesthetic, authenticity, or a compelling personality or story.

Exceptions are never automatic. These opportunities are based on instinct, vibe, and alignment with my own standards. Each case is considered individually.

No. They are rare, extended only when there is a genuine situation. This ensures that every engagement, whether through compensation or invitation, remains equally elevated and discreet.